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Question 01 of 10
When you finally slow down — or try to — what tends to rise to the surface?
A creeping sense that I should be doing more, followed by reaching for a drink or distraction.
Anxiety, dread, or a mental checklist of everything that could go wrong.
A strange emptiness — like I have been running so long I have forgotten what I am running from.
Guilt about all the people I have not been there for enough.
Waves of emotion I cannot quite name — or a complete shutdown where I feel nothing at all.
Question 02 of 10
Which statement feels most like you right now?
I have been drinking more often lately — just to take the edge off after a long day.
I control everything because if I do not, it will all fall apart.
I feel disconnected — even when life looks good on paper.
I take care of everyone else but have no idea how to take care of me.
I bounce between feeling everything intensely and feeling completely numb.
Question 03 of 10
Your body usually feels like...
Tight, wired, and running on fumes — like the engine never fully shuts off.
A coil of tension, always braced for what comes next.
Kind of numb or tuned out — like I am watching my life from a distance.
Tired, achy, and heavy — like I have been carrying too much for too long.
Unpredictable — sometimes flooded with sensation, sometimes completely shut down.
Question 04 of 10
How did people respond to your emotions growing up?
I got praise for being responsible and high-achieving, even when I was stressed or struggling.
I learned early that I had to stay strong and handle things myself.
I do not remember anyone really noticing or responding to my feelings.
I was often told my feelings were too much — so I learned to manage others' emotions instead.
I was told I was too sensitive or too emotional — and somewhere along the way, I believed it.
Question 05 of 10
How do you typically cope when things get overwhelming?
I stay busy or distracted — and when that stops working, I numb out with alcohol, food, or screens.
I try to fix, organize, or control the situation until I feel safe again.
I shut down, zone out, or go through the motions until the feeling passes.
I focus on helping or fixing things for others — it is easier than sitting with my own feelings.
I either spiral into self-criticism or completely check out — there is rarely a middle ground.
Question 06 of 10
When it comes to emotional connection, what is your experience?
I want it, but I am too tired or too guarded to let people in the way I used to.
I keep my guard up — even in close relationships. Trust feels risky.
I feel emotionally distant even when I care deeply. I am there, but not really there.
I give a lot in relationships but rarely feel truly seen or reciprocated.
I have been hurt before, so I tend to detach or avoid real intimacy altogether.
Question 07 of 10
What does your inner critic most often say to you?
You are not doing enough. You should be further along by now.
If you lose control, everything will fall apart.
What is the point? Nothing really changes anyway.
You are selfish for even thinking about your own needs.
There is something fundamentally wrong with you.
Question 08 of 10
When you notice something feels "off" inside, what do you do?
Keep pushing through — I will deal with it later, usually with a drink or something to take the edge off.
Go into fix-it mode immediately. I need to understand it, solve it, or control it.
Ignore it or distract myself. It is hard to even name what I am feeling.
Worry that I am burdening others if I bring it up — so I handle it alone, quietly.
Feel overwhelmed and either spiral into anxiety or shut down completely.
Question 09 of 10
What does "rest" feel like for you?
Uncomfortable. I feel guilty when I am not productive, so I fill the space with something.
Impossible. My mind races and I cannot seem to switch off the vigilance.
Empty. I rest but do not feel restored. I wake up the same way I went to sleep.
A luxury I do not allow myself until everyone else's needs are met.
Either too much (I disappear into sleep or isolation) or completely impossible when I am flooded.
Question 10 of 10
What would feel most meaningful to you six months from now?
Feeling genuinely calm without needing a drink to get there — and actually enjoying my life again.
Trusting myself and others more. Feeling safe enough to let go of control.
Feeling present and alive again — like I am actually living, not just going through the motions.
Knowing what I need and being able to ask for it without guilt.
Feeling at peace with who I am — not too much, not too little. Just right.
